The other day I told my husband that I thought before life gets crazy for the next month or so for us, that I should get out and go have a little "me" time. My husband has always been on board with this every now and then, but I swore for a second I saw that look like, "Why do you need that." Maybe I was wrong and let's hope for his sake, I was.
But seriously dude, moms just sometimes need a reset. A pause. A silence from the crazy.
I've even heard comments in the past -- sometimes from the same person -- "Oh you need some time to yourself" or "Well you are a mother now, this is how it's going to be." Obviously with that coming from the same person it can be conflicting, and obviously the latter makes you feel guilty for even thinking that you need a second to reset.
But seriously dude, we just do. We just need that one or two, or the whole dang 24 hours in the day to have a moment.
It's okay as moms to want to run away for just a few hours. Whether we go pamper ourselves, whether we go sit at Starbucks or whether we just go to Target (and get Starbucks there) - we need that space for just a second. By the way, anyone else think that Starbucks inside of Target is like literally the best dang thing? Like, who needs Disney for their happy place?!?! I have Target AND Starbucks, thank you very much. But I digress...
It helps to keep us sane to have a bit of reset time, it also helps keep our kids free (rather than locked in a closet. kidding.) and it helps keep the after bedtime wine down to only half the bottle (kidding. again. maybe).
Sometimes our reset can happen at home too. I can't even begin to tell you how much joy I get out of going to take a long shower, with my bathroom AND bedroom doors locked, all while my husband has the kids. There's something about knowing they are still up and running around like monkeys but not in my care that is so exciting. Kinda like "nananana boo boo, they yours now." Pretty sure some days when my husband walks through the door I'm just like, "Tag you're it bit@$" and I head straight to the shower (sorry, that's the wine talking). And just an FYI, you can totally leave the water running while you're still "showering" when Lord knows you're just laying there naked on your bed staring at the ceiling. Just because you can!
I love my children and being their mother is the best dang thing in the world. But as a stay at home mother (well let's face, this goes for the working mamas too probably), I wear MANY hats. I do and complete many tasks with little bodies clinging to my feet and with tiny people having more shit fits than a bipolar tiger does. I get screamed at, kicked on occasionlly and told "NO" more than I'd like to admit. I wipe a lot of poop up and I pick a lot of crap up ALL.DAY.LONG.
So if that doesn't entitle me or any other mother to have a few hours here and there for a reset, then someone needs to get a reality check. Mamas, don't ever let anyone make you feel guilty for having a little me time. Sure some moms may get a little too much "me" time and well, that's them. It's not me. And it's likely not you.
So get your hour, or two, or three mamas and live it up. Tag your husband or tag grandma or even take some money from your hubby's wallet and pay a dang babysitter.
Go get your Starbucks, girl. Run through Target like it's 1999 and buy the skimpiest, least "momish" pair of panties you can find.
And then you'll miss your kids and go home to the best dang kisses and cuddles this world has to offer. Because that's just how motherhood works. It's a crazy game of, "Just let me breathe for a second" followed by "I just want to breathe the scent of my sweet baby ALL.DAY.LONG."
That's motherhood for ya.