Looking at Motherhood and Homemaking from a Proverbs 31 View

Motherhood and Proverbs 31

As a blogger, (or just a millennial mom), you can often find me scrolling through Pinterest late at night. I’m usually Pinning home pins, Christmas ideas, baby pins and things about homemaking and motherhood. Part of it is sheer enjoyment for me and the rest is for research. A pin that I kept coming across in my “homemaking” search, was about the Proverbs 31 woman. So not knowing exactly who she was, I went on a quest to discover just who she is.

Proverbs 31: The Wife of Noble Character has quickly become my favorite scripture from the bible. I’ve been reading it and somewhat studying it for about four months now. I can read this scripture over and over and still get excited because I look at it and realize this is WHO I want to be.

So what exactly does that mean? Well, you’d have to read Proverbs 31 to find out exactly, but here I want to share with you what I think it means. Being a millennial mother in a complicated and busy world can be HARD and we can get so distracted, so caught up, so competitive, so judgey and so much more. I don’t want to be those things, but I am well aware that I can be. Life is fast paced and sometimes overwhelming. I’m sure every woman reading this can agree that the minute their clothes hamper is empty, it’s quickly full again. Most of us will say at some point in time that we felt completely undervalued and that the things we do so often for our family may go unnoticed. Mothers are world famous for juggling it all and for handling many tasks at once. It’s just what we do.

Homemaking as the Proverbs 31 Woman

It’s easy to get caught up in a negative mindset of housework and chores. Believe me, I am guilty of this too. However once you really start to step back and look at just who you are and what you are doing for those you love, you start to see your tasks through a different lens.

So how can you look at yourself like a Proverbs 31 woman? Why should you and who is she exactly? Let me share a little of who I think she is below.

She works hard. The Proverbs 31 woman gives you the impression that she is not just a homemaker, but that she actually is a businesswoman as well. She figures out a way to make an income from home for her family and makes wise investments. Now granted, not every mama is working from home, but so many are working hard. Working hard for your family whether away or from home, is a beautiful thing to teach your children. “She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands.”

She serves her family. I know the expression “serves” may turn you away, but truthfully I enjoy it. I “serve” the Lord daily and have no problem saying that (or at least I strive too). I can totally serve my family as well. Serving your family can be done with joy - but yes, sometimes you’ll get frustrated (we’re human). I enjoy the tasks that I do for my family on most days - cooking, cleaning, tidying up — these things actually bring me joy because I realize that by doing them, I am serving the people I love to help us have our lives more “organized and put together.” While yes sometimes the laundry piles up and that overwhelming feeling sets in, there are many times where I am just grateful to have these people’s dirty clothes in my home. “She gets up while it is still night; she provides food for her family…”

She keeps things orderly. Permission slips, lunch money, ironed uniforms, doctor appointments, birthday parties, gifts, soccer snacks, etc…these tasks don’t just magically get done. Sometimes these things are done as teamwork between spouses (or older children), but if you were to peek into the homes of so many, you’ll see a mother staying up late making sure her children’s bags are packed for school the next day. It’s the little things aside form housework that begin to add up. Mothers help keep things functioning smoothly and help keep order within the home. While we may not always hear a thank you for these things, these things matter so much. “She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.”

Motherhood and Jesus

She parents with faith. For me it’s one thing to be in church on Sundays with my children and it’s another to have actual discussions of who Jesus is. My kids are little so we keep our conversations pretty basic, but parenting your children in a way that places Jesus at the forefront will make your life easier. When you’re having your worst day and your biggest mom fail, Jesus has your back. Every mother hopes to one day look back and think that she parented her children the best she could, for me that means sprinkling Jesus everywhere that I can. “Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”

The “workloads” of motherhood and homemaking can be daunting, overwhelming sometimes and all for no pay. Sometimes we feel unappreciated and sometimes we feel like we just can’t make it another second. As much work as cooking a big meal for your family can be, just remember that you’re providing a warm meal for them. It’s because of you that your children get to have warm, wholesome food in their bellies and good, comfort food on the days that they need it.

You see, when you begin to take on the tasks with more joy and gratefulness, it becomes a little easier. Let’s not focus on our “chores” and life as just another day passing by or just another day captured in an Instagram square. Let’s focus on the joy of knowing that all of the little things we are doing is creating a path for our children. A blessed path where faith is taught, favorite recipes are passed down and homemaking is looked at as a good thing to serve those you love.

“Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.””

The Proverbs 31 Mother
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Sasha Savoy

Sasha is the owner and founder of The Mushy Mommy, a natural mother and baby boutique and The Mushy Mommy Village. She is a SAHM who works hard at living as minimal and unprocessed as possible, but never claims perfection. Her mission is to inspire, encourage, enlighten and empower mothers all over to feel good about their choices, to make healthy choices and to enjoy motherhood and all of its beauty and chaos. 

Being a Millennial Mom in a Social Media World

Being a Millennial Mom

Trying to be a mother in our modern day culture can be so overwhelming sometimes. We scroll the feeds all day to see articles about how iPads are ruining our children, Quaker oatmeal is filled with Monsanto and Americans are all going to die an early death from cancer and obesity.

Making decisions as a millennial mother can be difficult sometimes because we have the world right at our finger tips. We have the world peeking in and telling us what we should do, what we can do better and what we are failing at. We are letting strangers in our homes in the forms of media affect us in ways that aren’t healthy.

Suddenly we question everything we believe in. Vaccines. Organic Foods. Homeschool. Extra curricula sports. Oatmeal. Wheat Bread. iPads. Television. Sleepovers. Apple Juice and so much more. It’s a never ending list of news and articles and commentary thrown at us daily on electronic devices that makes us conflicted, scared, overwhelmed, exhausted and more.

Even for the most grounded and balanced of moms, internal turmoil can still happen. There’s the comparison game, the I am not a enough game and the I suck at this shit game. Now everything that we thought we was getting right becomes foggy and confusing, like an afternoon crash where all you just want to do is nap it off.

So how do we overcome this? How do we break through the fog that holds us down from experiencing the joys of motherhood? You may think that I will say that we should just turn off the electronics; that would for sure do the trick. But who are we fooling? We love sharing and we like being nosey. And besides, there’s a lot of inspiration and support found within the cyber space of social media. Whether we want to admit it or not, that mom group we are in has helped us out a time or two.

So how do we stop the internal turmoil that social media, electronics and just your basic news can tell us?

Social Media and Motherhood
  • We continually stand for what we believe in. There are certain things that I believe in that I am very vocal about on social media. There are other decisions and parenting concepts that I believe in as well, but choose to keep to myself. I find that taking part in discussing these controversial topics results in negativity and then confusion on my part as well. I then start to question my decision just because someone else doesn’t agree with me.

  • Stay out of debates. Mom debates on topics, whether controversial or not, just isn’t worth it. Debating and disagreeing leads to frustration and negativity.

  • Save articles that you want to read, especially if now isn’t the right time to read them. If your baby didn’t sleep a wink last night, don’t read some article right now that came across your feed on how to get your baby to sleep, you’ll likely just feel flustered because in your mind you have tried it all. Just save the Facebook link in your saved files (you can do this on Facebook by clicking the top right three dots of the post) and then read the article when the time is right for you.

  • Remove yourself. Remove yourself from negative groups or block their posts from your feed. Unfriend people who bring you down or simply unfollow their posts. Even if the friend is harmless but her perfect life is too much for you while you’re struggling in life, unfollow her feed.

  • Don’t bring up sticky topics. There are certain topics that I’ve learned not to talk about with anyone really because I don’t feel like hearing age old advice. I do my research and know what I believe in, stick to that.

  • DO YOUR RESEARCH. This is where the Internet is a blessing. We have a world of information at our fingertips, use it. Use it to help guide you when you’re unsure of yourself and your beliefs. Use it when the breastfeeding gets hard and when the toddler tantrums are out of control.

  • Unplug. Unplug from social media for a few days, mostly the weekends. You’ll feel somewhat refreshed to not be connected to it.

  • Remember that photos can lie. One square photo can’t tell everyone’s photo. You never know the story that really takes place behind the filter. Remember that some people heavily “filter” their life for social media, so don’t think that everything is always as beautiful as it seems.

  • Find inspiration. I love finding inspiration from mothers on social media, even if it’s because I feel like they have their crap together better than I do. I use it to motivate me to make the changes that I need to make in order to have a better handle on things.

  • FIND YOUR GRACE. I talk about this time and time again. But when you’re a mother, you have to find your grace. You have to find the grace to except the things that make you imperfect. You have to give yourself grace when you fail, when you stumble and when you fall short. You have to give yourself grace to pick the pieces back up and keep on going. You have to give yourself grace when it looks like some other mom on Instagram has a better handle on life than you.

Be the best you that you can be. Not the mom that social media or some article tells you that you have to be. Just be you and stick to that.

Motherhood and Social Media
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Sasha Savoy

Sasha is the owner and founder of The Mushy Mommy, a natural mother and baby boutique and The Mushy Mommy Village. She is a SAHM who works hard at living as minimal and unprocessed as possible, but never claims perfection. Her mission is to inspire, encourage, enlighten and empower mothers all over to feel good about their choices, to make healthy choices and to enjoy motherhood and all of its beauty and chaos. 

Creating Seasonal Book Bins For Kids

As a mother I am a sucker for books for my children. I strive to be minimal on many things, but books have been hard to be minimal on. In fact, the last time I checked we had around 300 books in our home thanks to hand me downs, free subscriptions from the Dolly Parton Imagination Library, gifts and the occasional book that I purchase here and there.

One of my favorite things to do is to create seasonal and themed book baskets for our little ones. Overtime I have realized that with the amount of books that we have, it is crazy to leave them ALL out at once where they can be a little overwhelming and also add excess items for us to clean and organize.

Having a rotation of books can be great because this helps to keep them surprising and “new” to your children. In many ways as they start to become older and remember more, they may become excited about knowing that their favorite Christmas stories will be on display soon for them or that their favorite Halloween stories will be sitting in a basket on the first day of fall. It almost provides a tradition in itself for your children as they look forward to and reread these books each year.

Figuring out how you want to create your book bins is totally up to you. There are perhaps many different ways you could create themed baskets or book bins for your little ones each year. Find some of our suggestions below on how we do this:

  • Fall/Halloween/Thanksgiving book bin

  • Christmas/Birth of Jesus/Winter book bin

  • Valentines/LOVE books

  • Spring/Nature/Easter/Earth books

  • Summer/Beach/USA/Vacation books

  • Back to School bin (example: The Night before Kindergarten, Junie B school days books, etc…)

  • Farm and animal theme (can be worked into spring as well)

  • Insects and Bug theme (can be worked into summer time)

You can also go a step further for younger toddlers and create theme bins for:

  • Colors

  • Letters

  • Numbers

  • Animals

  • Vehicles

Fall Seasonal Book Bin

As you can tell this is very basic and still leaves you plenty of normal, every day books to leave out for your little ones (Corduroy, Dr. Seuss, Junie B., ABC’s, etc…). As your children get older and start to crave new books and need new reading materials, you can purge and donate over time and continually build your collection for each bin.

We recently made a purchase for several fall books through Scholastic books with my daughter’s school because the prices are so amazing. This allowed us to have more books focused on fall that can grow with my children for the next several years. Over time I hope to add children’s classics to these bins as they learn to read and begin their journey with chapter books.

Never feel bad for storing your children’s books away through the seasons. Children do better with less around (yet here we are with a ridiculous amount of books, I know). Continue a wonderful family tradition year after year as you grow your seasonal book bins and provide a familiar tradition each year for your little ones to read their favorite seasonal stories. This provides them with a tradition to pass down to their children as they one day pack up their favorite holiday classes to share with their little ones one day.

What a wonderful way to make reading a little bit more fun!

Seasonal Book Bins for the Home