Why I Use Essential Oils

The Mushy Mommy and Essential Oils

Five years ago seems like a long time. But over five years ago a journey for me began that I would have never quite predicted. I was just like every other mama - I had a baby registry filled with popular baby brands and products such as Johnson and Johnson’s and I had not much thought really to the things we were using on our skin.

I suppose when I think back, there were signs that this would be “me” one day. As newlyweds with a small budget, I tried to squeeze organic items into the grocery cart sometimes just because I figured, “they must be better for us.” I didn’t know why. When my daughter was born and I had a stock pile of Johnson and Johnson’s, I opted for the “natural” version first. I didn’t really know why. For as long as I can remember, I never really took over the counter medicines - I just always let things run their course. Again, I didn’t know why.

Sometimes we do things and we don’t even realize that there are subconscious reasons why we are doing them. I look back now and realize that I did know there were “healthier” ways of living and I sometimes chose those ways, but I didn’t know why.

And then one day when my daughter was about three months old I was sent an article about Johnson and Johnson’s baby products and it lit a fire under me. I began researching and returning things back to the store. I began reading books like “Healthy Child, Healthy World” and educating myself on ways to protect my health and most of all, my baby’s health.

Aside from being a natural birth junkie and a die hard breastfeeding mama, I wasn’t some tree hugging hippie. I was just a girl on a mission to make our home a safer place. I was just a mama bear protecting her cub. Being a hippie was something that slowly evolved because I chose it.

While on my journey of changing my baby’s skin care products, our cleaning products and then later my own beauty products, I kept coming across information on essential oils. You’d think they were this new, hit thing, but it turns out they were not. I was just new to the picture. So off I went to the local health food store for some errrllllssss.

Oils are My Love Language

And I found them. In fact, I found a few different brands and asked a few questions, but I knew little. I was deceived and thought that a brand was locally made because it had a local logo on it. I knew little about these oils or how to use them or how they even worked. Like um, how does just smelling a plant make me happy? Can someone please explain that?!?!

So to speed this life story up some, I later attended a Young Living class, heard all of the spill and went home begging for a starter kit.

I knew it was what I needed! It was what we needed!

And I am here to say that it took me nearly three freaking years to make them a huge part of my life. Which was so dumb.

I mean I used them and all, but not religiously. I didn’t educate myself on them and I didn’t really use the groups that I was a part of the way that I should have. Then one day comes and I’m pregnant and sick as can be with sinus junk and those oils freaking worked. They helped me more than the junk I was told to use by my doctor!

And they’ve been helping US ever since.

You see I use essential oils for everything. From cleaning to skin care, mosquito bites to respiratory support and emotions to sleep. When my mind is racing, I use oils. When I feel anxious, I use oils. When my kids are crazy, they get oils. When our noses are stuffy, we have oils. When they color on something, we have oils. When our skin is a little cray cray, we have oils. When I want to prevent wrinkles, I have oils. When everyone around you is sick, we have oils. And so on and so on.

I use oils because God placed those precious plants here for us. Essential oils aren’t some new fad, they are biblical and historical. They are what so many have used to help support us over time. And yes, when oils aren’t enough - we have doctors! But you know what? So often, oils ARE enough. In our home, it’s oils and supplements first - doctors later.

Essential Oils YLEO

I use essential oils because while they are not a magic pill, they help keep a lot of the bad guys out. Stuffy noses and seasonal allergies still appear on occasion, but the bad guys are usually out the door. And I have oils, good supplements and a decent diet to thank for all of that.

I use essential oils because today’s world is filled with chemicals, toxins and quick fixes at every corner you turn. If something is slightly wrong, everyone wants to medicate. If something smells bad, we cover it with cancerous plug ins and if food isn’t growing pretty enough, we genetically grow it in a lab. Like what the hell man, our bodies didn’t sign up for this. Increasingly high cancer rates, infertility, autoimmune diseases, allergies, asthma, learning disabilities and so much more didn’t just increase for no reason. It’s because our bodies are in contact with crap that it can’t handle.

We can’t fix it all, but we can sure make some changes!

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So our family uses essential oils to help protect our body, health and overall well being. I use essential oils so hopefully I can live a little longer and be less of a cranky zombie. I use essential oils so I have to go visit my kid’s doctor and sit in the sick room with people coughing on me a lot less than before. We use them every single day.

I don’t use them because I am perfect. I’ll still eat all of your chocolate cake and drink some wine. I don’t use them because I am cooler than you or because I am a kale eating, seaweed loving health nut. I use them because I have learned enough by now to know that these son of a guns work and they are helping us and so many others around me.

I am just a mama bear, protecting her cubs. I am just a woman making a decision to be a little healthier. I am just a girl relying on some good oils, mother nature and Jesus. I’m just a mama, hugging my kids tight and huffing in all the oils from their little necks.

Don’t sit on the bench and wonder about them for so long like I did. Don’t just dabble in and out of them like I did. Don’t think you’re not “hippie” enough. You can do this mama bear, you really can. And I will gladly help you along the way.

Top photo by Gray Photography 

Creating a Cozy Home for Winter

Creating a Cozy Home for Winter

Winter season is one of my favorite seasons and always has been. When it starts getting colder, when the days start getting shorter and when the trees are looking empty, I enjoy these days and all of the fresh, crisp air it provides.

It dawned on me recently as a mother why I enjoy this time so much. Suddenly our calendar is less occupied. There’s no more soccer games, there’s less birthday parties, no more fall festivals and basically we have lots of empty weekends with a few holiday parties here and there.

I enjoy this season of mothering because it is cozy. I enjoy it because it forces us to stay connected as we sit by the fire or as we bake holiday cookies. It forces us to reconnect and to just “be;” a task that is always easier said than done in today’s busy lifestyle. The holidays can no doubt be a time of “hustle and bustle” as you finish up Christmas shopping, make all of the dishes, attend all of the parties and basically, eat all of the things. But if you’re really intentional about this time and the months ahead, you’ll see just how cozy and reconnecting it can be for your family and for yourself. When it’s too cold to play outside and you're forced to be indoors, it can be rewarding to be together. That’s not to say that cabin fever doesn’t exist, because it surely does - but I believe in finding the cozy joys of the day (even on my hardest days). Sometimes a good session of baking cookies or making smores is a good reset for us all!

Here are some of my favorite ways to embrace this cozy season:

Comfort. I think it is truly comforting to have your own warm slippers and your own warm robe or house sweater. The same goes for the children! Having what you need on hand to keep you warm gives you that “homey” feeling when you take off your shoes and sink into your plush slippers.

Food. Yes, weird that I associate food with winter but I do. Hot chocolate is actually something I drink year round - it’s legit my nearly every day order at Starbucks. But hot chocolate is a special treat at home and a special treat for my children. We don’t do it daily, but when it’s really cold in the mornings or the evenings, it’s a fun treat for my children. I also find that baking cookies or warm muffins is a treat as well as smores by the fire. And a good soup to simmer on the stove all evening is one of my favorite things about “making a home a home” during the winter. Make a large soup and freeze some for a quick meal on a busy night. Also, try our delicious french toast recipe here for those holiday mornings!

Family Movies. Winter time is an excellent time for movies because there’s less going on outside. It’s too cold to play and most extra curricular sports are on an off season. It’s the perfect time to have a family night with hot coco and a family movie.

Board games. This is another way to enjoy the season - board games by the fire in fuzzy pajamas sounds like a plan to me!

Creating a Dim Mood. Spring and summer are all about the bright lights and sunlight beaming through the windows, but honestly I love a dreary day that creates a dim mood. Rooms that are unoccupied in our home stay lit with a small lamp or himalayan salt lamp or our essential oil diffusers. These soft glows create a beautiful mood that matches the season.

Layering. This is something new to me as I scroll through my favorite Instablogs and mamas these days, but layering is the new thing. Whether your’e layering rugs, layering pillows or layering bedding, this adds texture and warmth to any space.

Basket catch-alls. I love natural fiber baskets or chests that can store away the things we need more often in the winter. Whether it is extra throw blankets on hand or a place near the door for everyone’s sweaters, hats and gloves - having functional and stylish storage keeps things tidy and appealing. Add wicker baskets by the door or mud room for winter essentials and keep a basket in the living room with spare throws and pillows. In our home, baskets get moved around and used for many different purposes depending on the season we are in.

Seasonal Colors. This is something I am learning as I go with having a home, but changing out our throw pillows and colors works well for us because we tend to keep things pretty neutral. Adding in deep velvets or deep colors adds a warmth and seasonal “texture” to change things up and keep things cozy.

Seasonal Book bins. I love having a seasonal book bin for my children. Winter and Christmas is a wonderful time to add some new books to the book bin for your children to learn more about the changing season and the true meaning of the holiday we are celebrating. Each season we try to change our book bin up, even though we do have other books scattered throughout the home.

Adding joy. Garland, eucalyptus garlands or stems and twinkle lights are “holiday-ish” touches without being too holiday! These items can stay out longer than just Christmas and really set the the mood for the fun season ahead.

Essential oils. Some of my favorite oils for the winter season include Christmas Spirit, Nutmeg, Clove, Cinnamon Bark, Grapefruit, Cypress, Pine, Northern Lights Black Spruce and Orange. You can read about some fun fall blends here and holiday blends here.

There are so many ways and possibilities to enjoy your home during this cold season. While cabin fever can certainly exist, embrace the empty calendar and the excuse to stay in fleece pajamas all day. Create memories and traditions within the walls of your cozy, little home.


Sasha Savoy

Sasha is the owner and founder of The Mushy Mommy, a natural mother and baby boutique and The Mushy Mommy Village. She is a SAHM who works hard at living as minimal and unprocessed as possible, but never claims perfection. Her mission is to inspire, encourage, enlighten and empower mothers all over to feel good about their choices, to make healthy choices and to enjoy motherhood and all of its beauty and chaos. 

Being in the Trenches of Motherhood

The Trenches of Motherhood

Have you ever heard the phrase, “In the trenches of motherhood?” Like whoa, that sounds so deep. That sounds real and kinda sounds like a really exhausting and hard place.

I hadn’t heard of that statement until recently actually. Everyone seemed to use it where I was and there was like some invisible line of which moms were on the side of the trenches and which side had some what overcome the trenches. To be honest, I am still not quite sure where the line lies.

But I am sure that I am in the trenches.

So many of us are. If you’re reading this, there’s a good chance you are too. You clicked this link out of desperation, exhaustion or wanting to feel like you’re not the only one in this hard phase. You’re looking for a mama who is like you — unable to pee alone and desperate for hot coffee.

The trenches are hard, but with each day I see a glimmer of hope of what motherhood will be like one day without children climbing all over me, throwing mindless tantrums and listening like a rock. There won’t be food thrown on the floor at every meal and there won’t be toys strewn all over the house even if I just picked up 10 minutes prior to. I’ll get a solid night of sleep without getting kicked in the back or woken up with cries. And there won’t be little humans incapable of expressing themselves like a normal person.

The trenches are real, they are deep and they can be so very hard to navigate.

But then I think about how much I love this time. Sure date night is hard to come by and going out to dinner with children is a sport of its own, but man, the trenches are so good.

I have little people who need me all day long. There’s sweet baby cries with little outstretched arms just waiting for me to pick up, because to that baby I am everything. And the second that baby is in my arms he’s nuzzled right in the curve of my neck where I can kiss that sweet little head and take in the sweetest smell ever.

My children’s innocence warms my heart because they don’t know about fear, evil and hatred. They only know love. Their minds run rampant with imaginations and the questions while sometimes tedious and overwhelming are also loving. My kisses are enough for the booboos and my hugs are enough for scary monsters under the bed. There’s kisses in abundance and hugs galore, and “I love you mom” for no reason other than just because they genuinely adore me. I can yell one minute and still get the warmest and sweetest hugs; something I doubt will be quite as popular in the teenage years.

I am shown grace and more grace over and over because despite my flaws, I am their “mommy.”

So yes, I am in the trenches. Yes, it can be SO hard. I mean, have you ever tried peeing alone during motherhood — it just doesn’t happen (at least not in the trenches). But what if the trenches are the years we look back on and miss? What if they are the years that mold us into the mother we were meant to be and teach us the most about love, grace, forgiveness and patience? What if they make us rely more on Jesus and what if they make us stronger? What if they break us down to our core and teach us about life?

I have a good feeling they will.

You see, the trenches are a phase we all have to go through. And yes, we want to get through it because we want to see our children grow up and become the people they are destined to be. We want to sleep again, we want to have girl’s night again and we want to teach real life lessons to our children and mend their broken hearts, celebrate their triumphant victories and help them get back up when they fall down.

But until then, until then I will remind myself that the trenches are a gift.

They are a beautiful journey no matter how hard, and that one day I will long for them and remember it with such peace, joy and happiness. The hard will go away and the memories of being their everything, their “Mama” and their whole world, will be the piece that I hold onto so I can forever keep those little innocent and precious babies with me.

Enjoy the trenches mama. It’s a sacred place to be.

The trenches of Motherhood

Photo by Cayle Gray with Gray Photography


Sasha Savoy

Sasha is the owner and founder of The Mushy Mommy, a natural mother and baby boutique and The Mushy Mommy Village. She is a SAHM who works hard at living as minimal and unprocessed as possible, but never claims perfection. Her mission is to inspire, encourage, enlighten and empower mothers all over to feel good about their choices, to make healthy choices and to enjoy motherhood and all of its beauty and chaos.