Handling the Internet and Young Children

Internet Safety

Raising kids comes with lots of fears and that main fear is almost always in regard to their safety. We want nothing more than for our children to be safe in this big and sometimes scary world. We want to give them the reins to take the ride of life on their own but we first want to make sure they know just how to safely ride. 

In our home, social media (for me) is obviously a big thing. I run my businesses off of social media and like others, I love scrolling through Instagram and Pinterest to find inspiration for everything from messy hair buns to keto recipes. 

But what about my children and the Internet?

What about social media? Granted they are too young for social media now, but it doesn't help to think about what you "think" you'll do when the time comes and how you'll handle it. 

I know many, many young children have their own smart phones and iPads, but that is simply not the case here. My children play educational games on MY iPad and honestly they usually just scroll through our family photos and videos. Giving them each their own iPad is something that I have no intentions of doing - not even close. Maybe teenage years I'll consider it, but even then there will be some heavy monitoring. There's just simply no need for it for our own personal reasons. 

Internet safety for kids

What about social media for young teens? 

My daughter still has several years until she enters the world of the teens (thank gosh), but I can't help but think of all the young girls I know who already have access to social media. Do I think that chatting with their friends is a bad thing? Of course not. But just like the internet does, social media opens up a portal to things that children may not be ready to see and shouldn't see. Not to mention that social media has become the modern day hallways of school bullying, something that I want to steer my children clear from. 

But you can't protect them from everything? 

No you can't. I can't protect my children from everything. They may not have iPhones and social media and still may see images online from peers' phones. They may not have access to the internet at my house but can easily access it at a friend's home. I know these things, I was a kid once. But as a parent I feel it is my duty and obligation to protect my child as best as I can, and to me that is not just handing off electronics to allow free range. 

But one day they'll need a phone. And the internet for school. 

Absolutely! One day my children will need a phone and when that time comes, I will decide on if we go with a smart phone (probably not) or a regular phone just for calls and text. And of course my children will always have monitored access to the internet at home for school purposes or even if their curiosity strikes and they need to Google something. 

I recently came across the cutest book about internet safety for children that covers the basics: not giving out personal info, not falling for phishing scams, social media safety and more. This adorably illustrated book is easy and catchy to read and straight to the point. 

After speaking to the brains behind Internet Kids Road Trip, I realized that a lot of thought went into this project. From surveying mommy friends and discovering that they didn't totally know what their kids were doing on the internet, to designing and illustrating the book themselves, this book was a labor of love to help protect the innocence of our children out there. 

Internet Kids Road Trip
Internet Kids Road Trip

I hope you take a peek at this book and share it with those that need it. You can grab a free digital download here and pass it along to your young children. This book is excellent for children around the ages of 6-13 who are just beginning to understand the internet and social media. Or you can be like me, and try to shield as much as possible! 

Deciding what is right for your family's internet usage is truly a "to each their own." Do what works for you and decide where your priorities lie in keeping your children safe on the internet. And please give this adorable book a read! 

Also, can we remember to always respect and not judge others when it comes to their own personal rules. Don't think someone is being ridiculous because their young child doesn't have a phone and vice versa. Respect without ridicule is huge here. Coming from someone who had her identity used for disgusting purposes on Facebook, I have every right to shield what feels right for me. 

Mamas, do what works for you and what is right for your kids. And please, give this book a read to your children so they can understand the dangers of the internet a little more. 

This is a sponsored post. All reviews and opinions are my own. 

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Sasha Savoy

Sasha is the owner and founder of The Mushy Mommy, a natural mother and baby boutique and The Mushy Mommy Village. She is a SAHM who works hard at living as minimal and unprocessed as possible, but never claims perfection. Her mission is to inspire, encourage, enlighten and empower mothers all over to feel good about their choices, to make healthy choices and to enjoy motherhood and all of its beauty and chaos. 

I'm a Mother Because He Loved Me First

I'm a Mother First Because He Loved Me

Last night while getting ready for bed, the words "I'm a Mother Because He Loved Me First" popped into my head. I realized that those words were powerful, deep and meaningful. I also realized that there were two people that this expression referred to, Jesus Christ as the first HE and my husband as the second. 

Let's start with Jesus since he's kinda the biggie here. 

I am a mother first and foremost because Jesus Christ loved me so much that he died up on that cross for me to live this life day in and day out. I am a mother who knows love and how to give love because I first had His love. 

I am a mother who is sustained by Jesus each and every day, especially during the trials of motherhood. I'm a mother who has the capacity to forgive, because each day I am forgiven for my wrongs. I am so graciously loved enough to be given more grace, more patience and more kindness. And tomorrows, I am always grateful for tomorrows. 

I am a mother because I know that Jesus Christ hears my thoughts, my prayers and my pleas for protection over my children. Mothering in this day and age without a Lord to turn to would be scary and dark. But with my boy Jesus on my side, I can rise up each and every day to defeat the anxiety and fear that comes with mothering and keeping your precious ones safe. He's the ultimate protector when I can't always be. 

I am a mother because I have the best listener to speak to, and sometimes mamas just need a good listener. He may not always speak back, but sometimes us mamas just need to get it all out there anyway - with no interruptions. He listens well and I know he hears me.

I am a mother with Jesus on my side. 

And then He went and did this crazy thing. He brought along a man for me to meet and marry who would one day help make me a mother as well. The husband, the baby daddy, the partner, the lover and the one who accompanies my Mother with Father. Whatever you call him, he's kinda a big deal too. 

I am a mother because two people fell in love long ago and because that love grows daily in many ways. Watching someone you love deeply become a parent is a beautiful thing and opens up more value, more appreciation and respect. It gets messy, it gets chaotic, and it gets loud. Really loud. But gosh, it gets so good. 

I am a mother because this man loved me enough to take me as his own. Out of all the fish in the sea (as he would say), I chose him and he chose me. I am a mother because our love came together and grew in ways unimaginable. It grows as we grow, it ages as we age. It finds joy in the mundane and it relishes in the little moments of hide and seek and ABC's now. 

I am a mother because this man took a chance on me. He didn't know if I'd be a good mother or not. He didn't know how I'd do things and who I'd become. But he took that chance and had a little faith. I'm sure he couldn't have predicted lots of the ways in which I'd evolve. #clothdiapers

I am a mother because this man loves me day in and day out no matter how imperfect I may be. He loves my beauty no matter how much motherhood has changed it and he loves my cooking no matter how often I burn it. He loves me at my weakest, at my most exhausted and at my whiniest. He pushes me, supports me and lifts me up when I am defeated. And he lets me nap! 

I am a mother because while yes I could probably do this own my own, he is the light I need in my days to conquer motherhood. He's the partner, the cheerleader and sometimes the mess maker too. But his love, his grace and his partnership makes this role as mother complete. 

So I am a mother because he loved me then and he loves me now. In fact, he loves me more each day and he's my counterpart in this parenting thing. Yet his love wouldn't be possible without the first love. One he wouldn't be possible without the other He. 

So as Mother Day approaches, I am blessed to hold the title of "Mother" but I personally couldn't have done it alone. Thank you to the man who made me a mother and to the Lord who gave me a love that gave me the world. 

Happy Mother's Day to our readers! 

*This post is written solely from my experience and faith. I am well aware that not all mamas become mothers in the same way. Happy Mother's Day to all of the mamas out there no matter how or who you give your thanks to for helping you become a mother. Enjoy your special day, you totally deserve it! 

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Sasha Savoy

Sasha is the owner and founder of The Mushy Mommy, a natural mother and baby boutique and The Mushy Mommy Village. She is a SAHM who works hard at living as minimal and unprocessed as possible, but never claims perfection. Her mission is to inspire, encourage, enlighten and empower mothers all over to feel good about their choices, to make healthy choices and to enjoy motherhood and all of its beauty and chaos. 

What Moms Need For Mother's Day

Gift ideas for Mother's Day

I love a good excuse to tell someone the things that I need or want in life. Like, I need chocolate really bad right now. But I want to be skinnier. But if we're being honest here, I'd likely ignore my want and go straight to my need and grab me some dang chocolate. 

So what do moms NEED for Mother's Day? There's many things probably. There's also probably many things that they want too. But let's just stick with the needs...

  1. A full 10 hours of sleep. Yes, I know the recommendations are for only eight hours but considering how little we have slept since becoming mothers, let's just settle for ten hours, mmmkay
  2. A pat on the back. Seriously. Appreciation is a beautiful thing and I don't necessarily mean from our kids when we wipe their butts and they say "thank you." I mean from the husbands, the baby daddy, the boyfriends, the partners, etc... We need to hear that we are actually succeeding at this motherhood thing because chances are we have our doubts. Hearing it from you is just a beautiful thing. 
  3. Alcohol. I'm just being real here. Let me enjoy some wine or vodka, or something. It's been a rough few years at times. #seepointone
  4. A long hot bath, in the middle of the day while you watch the little ones. I'm not sure if it's just me, but there is something super magical about taking a bath while the kids are running around and I'm not the one watching them. Kinda like "tag you're it, I'm off to the spa." I find this to be even more enjoyable with sunlight streaming through the windows, a good book and maybe some alcohol. #seepointthree
  5. A foot massage. Because um, the expression "running around after your kids" is accurate. 
  6. Personal care items. There's a good chance that while at the store and making sure our kids got new socks, toothbrushes and stuff like that, that we forgot to stock up on our things. New mascara, new socks, some of the soap we love and the body scrub that may cost a bit but smells divine. We will probably need tampons too soon, so just throw that in there so we're not sending you out at 8pm to grab some at the corner mart. But if we're being honest here, I may not speak to you for a few days if you just get me tampons for Mother's Day. 
  7. Chocolate. This is obvious. We live daily thinking about our figures, our appearance and the postpartum baby weight that we're still holding onto. Even when we snack with the kids, we are probably having a mental war with ourselves over this. So how about today give us all the cookies, cakes and chocolates and it's ALLLL calorie free. #goals
  8. Lavender and all the calming oils. Yes, have you met our children? They are cute as can be but dayummmm they can be a little cray cray. I need bottles of all the calming oils and emotional support. #zenplease
  9. Pajamas. Because every few months our children out grow their pajamas and they need new ones. Yet here we are wearing the same pjs we've had since college. Time for some self care. And I don't need all of the nipple tassels and G strings. Like, just give me the soft stuff that I can wear all day too. Hit up the Pink section at Victoria's Secret if you really want to get on our good side. #fancyjammies
  10. A chef. Okay, or takeout. Point is -- I don't want to touch a dish on Mother's Day other than the ones that come into my bed at 10 am with bacon, eggs and mimosas. #dreaming
  11. A robot vacuum or mop. If you gave us a standard broom for Mother's Day, there's a good chance we'd smack you with it. But if you give us a robotic broom that does the work for us, it'll be like the best thing ever. #rosietheroomba
  12. Something homemade. As cliche as it really is, these things truly warm our hearts. Whether you make something, write us a long card or have the kids make us something, we'll love it. Lawd knows that getting our kids to paint their hands and make pictures on paper can be a messy, stressful job...so kudos to you for trying! 
  13. A good book or devotional. Because this is just thoughtful and mamas need Jesus all day, errryyyyday. 

Okay, so maybe that was a bit demanding; but we can all dream right?

 There are a few other things I need. I need my children to come and snuggle me and tell me they love me. I need time together with those that I love so I can relish in what this day is actually about and I need hugs and kisses because there's never enough of those. 

I also need a moment to myself just to thank the good Lord for all he's blessed me with, especially on this day. A moment to say thanks for making me a mother and a moment to pray for all of those hoping to one celebrate this day too. Because he's blessed me big time and no matter how little sleep I've had since becoming a mother, it's totally worth it day in and day out. 

So here's to all of my mamas out there. Whether you want a fun filled family day or a day relaxing and recovering from the trenches of motherhood, I hope you enjoy your day. I hope you also remember just how amazing you are, even when you feel you're at your weakest. I hope you remember to find grace in the hard days and to cut yourself some slack. 

You're doing a wonderful job. And I hope you feel wonderful each and every day, but especially on Mother's Day. 

Happy Mother's Day to all of our readers! 

P.S. It is totally acceptable to tag and share this post with your boo. Nothing wrong with dropping some hints. #ilikediamondstoo #justsayingbae

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Sasha Savoy

Sasha is the owner and founder of The Mushy Mommy, a natural mother and baby boutique and The Mushy Mommy Village. She is a SAHM who works hard at living as minimal and unprocessed as possible, but never claims perfection. Her mission is to inspire, encourage, enlighten and empower mothers all over to feel good about their choices, to make healthy choices and to enjoy motherhood and all of its beauty and chaos.