A Modern Mama's Desire for Minimalism

Minimalism

Minimalism. Simplicity. Natural. 

Such trendy words in the world of social media these days. I know numerous Insta-famous families who sell all of their things and live in the most hipster RV ever. I see homes all day long filled with just the bare minimums and my Pinterest feed is filled with posts on minimalism, removing clutter and so on. 

Obviously I am attracted to these things. That's why they are in my feeds, it's why I follow these people and it's why I read about it. 

But why? Why am I so attracted to something that seems so out of my reach?

Let's face it, I'm a mom just like everyone else. We have toys here, we have way too many pairs of shoes and I get sentimental as crap over crap. Then on occasions, I see pictures and snippets into others' lives and realize that maybe we don't have quite as much as I thought we did. 

Somewhere, I sit in the crossroads of minimalism and the modern culture of "too much crap." 

Today I want to share with you what I have learned about living simply and why I choose to and why I still have so much more to go. 

What does minimalism mean to me? 

When I think of minimalism I think of what is natural. I think of simplicity. 

It doesn't mean that we function with the bare minimums. It means we function with the things that we love. I love looking into a room and being able to see more of the "bones" of the room instead of the stuff. This is perhaps why my daughters' shared room drives me absolutely insane. I look into there and just see "stuff." However, other rooms of my home are less filled. Those make me happy. 

The journey for me is about only filling my home with things that truly speak to me. Before I would purchase something because it was such a good deal or because I just needed something to fill the space. Now, I usually sit and contemplate on an item for hours, days, or weeks just to make sure it has a spot in my home. Fill your home with only the things that you love. 

Minimalism means so much more to me. It's not just about stuff. It's about life. I hate a full calendar. I hate obligations. I hate when our weeks are filled with too many things - I just want to be home. But, like many others, we do have these busy months. Sometimes the obligations are for beautiful things and that's good. But along the way, I've learned to say no to the things that are less important to me. 

Living simply to me sometimes just means going down a different path. I long to live back in the old days, not in this fast paced, modern world. I love real food, I love those who grow their own food, I love fresh eggs, homemade baked goods and real ingredients. Whether it is real ingredients to clean my home like Lemon oil and baking soda or real ingredients in my children's pancakes, less is so much more to me. It's simple. 

Why do I desire this? 

As much as I am drawn to a home with bare walls and straight lines, the reality is that this is not quite me. I like a little coziness, a warm home with old touches and photos of my children on the walls. I am drawn to find the balance between what fills my cup and what I know will make my life easier. 

As a homemaker, I'm drawn to living more simply because it's just simple. Less is easier. Less is less mess. Less obligations is less headaches and more time for doing things as a family. Clutter makes me anxious. Things are just things. I've learned over time that those Coach bags I longed for so badly in my early adult years mean nothing now. They're out of style, not quite my taste and too flashy. I've learned that going over the top for kid's costumes, parties or dress up days at functions isn't me (P.S. If you're an over the top mom, I tip my hat to you because I'm just not quite that crafty enough and I'm cheap if we're being real here). 

I desire to bring my children up knowing that less is more and that you can always make what you have work. You can make pancakes with flour, milk and eggs. You can make a dress work for fall and spring time too. 

Am I perfect at it?

Heck no. I have daily mental lists of all the things I want to rid my home of. I have toys I want to throw away but like many moms, I just can't. I have things that I keep because I think one day I may need it. But, each day I strive to free myself of something. An obligation or a bag of items to donate or trash. 

I'm a normal mom, attracted to beautiful things with a desire to live with less. You can see from that description, it's a tricky journey. As a homemaker, I feel that we are called to find out who we are. Even for the full time work away from home mamas, we are still a homemaker. We make our home the way it is, we make it cozy and inviting. 

Trying to live a little more simply with a little less, isn't for everyone. There's no right or wrong way to keep a home. But as my journey as a mother and homemaker continues to unravel, I learn more about who I am and who I desire to be. I desire to be simple.

Discover why you may be drawn to living a little more simple. Perhaps you have anxiety issues, perhaps you don't sleep well, perhaps you're unhappy, or perhaps you just feel like life is disorganized and chaotic. I can tell you that if this is you, go around and throw things away, organize all the clutter piles and huff some oils. You'll feel better. 

But for real, take a step back and start eliminating. Fill your home up with what you love. Rid your life of what you don't need, not because it's a cool Pinterest trend, but because it's what you need for your sanity. Say no to the things that you don't want to do and that you don't need, and say yes to what makes your heart happy, cozy and content. 

If it's what you desire, make your home a simple one. 

 

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Sasha Savoy

Sasha is the owner and founder of The Mushy Mommy, a natural mother and baby boutique and The Mushy Mommy Village. She is a SAHM who works hard at living as minimal and unprocessed as possible, but never claims perfection. Her mission is to inspire, encourage, enlighten and empower mothers all over to feel good about their choices, to make healthy choices and to enjoy motherhood and all of its beauty and chaos. 

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Sasha Savoy

Sasha is the owner and founder of The Mushy Mommy, a natural mother and baby boutique and The Mushy Mommy Village. She is a SAHM who works hard at living as minimal and unprocessed as possible, but never claims perfection. Her mission is to inspire, encourage, enlighten and empower mothers all over to feel good about their choices, to make healthy choices and to enjoy motherhood and all of its beauty and chaos. 

Being a Happy Homemaker

A Happy Homemaker

What does being a homemaker mean to you? 

For some reason at this season in my life, being a "homemaker" has become sort of a passion of mine. Perhaps it has something to do with having my first home, a home that we can slowly transform into our own little paradise. A home that I can raise my babies in, bake cookies in and celebrate Christmas mornings in. 

There's been times in the past where I've heard the expression, "So you're just a homemaker;" and I won't lie, sometimes that kinda stings. As mothers and homemakers, we aren't "just" anything. We are the glue that holds so much together and for some of us like myself, we run businesses from home, we raise babies and so much more. 

I look at my life most days and can pick out the days where I truly felt fulfilled and happy as a homemaker. The days where there was less chaos, more order and a sense of accomplishment. The days where I felt like June Cleaver and felt pride for my role in our family. 

So what stands out to me about those days to help one be a "Happy Homemaker?" 

Dress for the part. I know, I know...you're already thinking about how heck no you are not wearing an apron and a dress. To be honest I don't even own an apron, but I have been eyeing some cute ones. I have always found that the days I dress in real clothes, with a hint of makeup and semi fixed hair, is the days I feel better. The days where I run to the grocery store in a simple shift dress with white sneakers for a super casual, yet modern look, are the days I feel much more "together." 

Cook real food. Cooking isn't my favorite if we are being honest here. I have more fun cleaning my home than I probably do cooking. Perhaps it is because cooking makes a mess and cooking with little ones can be such a challenge. But there are some easy measures that I have done (and need to do more often) that create a happy mama in a happy kitchen. 

  • Crockpot meals. When dinner goes in the crockpot early and simmers all day, I feel like June Cleaver every time I pass by a kitchen with yummy aromas coming through. 
  • A big pot simmering. Similar to that of a crockpot meal, a big pot of soup simmering on the stove all day makes me happy. Something about soup is easy and yet so hearty and nutritious. 
  • Desserts. Being a modern mom means A) we are busy B) we have boxed cake mixes! Take advantage of these box mixes to spend time baking fresh desserts for your children. Your kids will likely remember the smells of fresh baked cookies on the table more than they will remember if you made them from scratch or relied on Nestle. Bonus points for doing things from scratch, but also bonus points for warm cookies straight out the oven! 
  • Dinner prep early. I see this mentioned and done so much, and I can tell you that when it is done - it is such a lifesaver! Prep for your meals earlier in the day so cooking after school pickup is a breeze. 
  • Prep produce. I've been more conscious of this lately to prep our produce once getting home from the store. Soak your produce and then store them in glass containers for easy access and quick grabs. You're more likely to eat the berries if they are washed and ready to go. 

Do away with clutter. Clutter drives me crazy. I strive to eliminate piles of clutter to keep the home looking tidy. I can function with a kinda dirty tub or toilet, but I can't function if I look around and just see "stuff." Eliminate stuff from your life and you'll feel so much lighter and have less to overwhelm you. 

Choose your cleaning rhythm. Some people can't do a hardcore cleaning day and others prefer to stretch it out throughout the week. I tend to do main things like dusting, bathrooms and maybe mopping all in one day, on whichever day works for us. I then tend to laundry, tidying and reorganizing things all throughout the week when I can and want to. 

Empty the barrel before the weekend. Empty the hamper, you guys. Try to have all of the laundry and housework done before the weekend so you can enjoy it! Try to do at least one load during the weekend so you don't get too behind, but enjoy your weekends. 

Decorate in a way that feeds your soul. I used to be one that had to get whatever was on clearance somewhere, what ever was handed down to me or gifted to me and or whatever I thought was "in." I have now come to realize that less is more and do it slowly so you get exactly what you want. Our home still doesn't have all of the final touches that I want it to have, but it's because I buy good pieces and search for things that truly feels like ME. Make your home something that represents you and your family. 

Add sunshine. Add sunshine to your day by going outside. Take your morning coffee to the front porch. Take the kids out in the evenings. Take up gardening (believe me I never dreamed I would love it). Keep fresh flowers around the home. Nature is truly therapy. Also, music while cleaning is awesome as well! 

Add Prayer. If you're a praying person, talk about all of your fears, your woes and your weaknesses. Ask for strength, for patience and wisdom to set the right rhythms, moods and days for your family. 

Stop the perfection. I am guilty of always wanting my home to be perfect. But realistically speaking with three little ones, that just isn't the case. As long as my house is semi-decent enough for the surprise visitor, that is good enough for me! 

Have a power hour. Pop a movie in, put the baby in the bouncy seat (or wear hime) and have a power hour of cleaning. I LOVE doing this and find it is most helpful in the evenings right after nap time. 

Realize your worth. I think this is huge. I also think this holds so much more value if your husband realizes your worth. When your significant other realizes the day to day things that you do and appreciates you for it, your job suddenly becomes more meaningful. You begin to realize that you truly are a huge chunk of the glue holding things together, making things happen and keeping your home running smoothly (or as smoothly as children allow it). 

Homemaking doesn't have to be a passion for everyone, and that is okay too. Just because you may not be a fan of cooking and cleaning and keeping a home, doesn't mean anything. But if you're looking for ways to make your days seem a little easier, more joyful and with more pride in what you do, take these tips and tricks and make them work however they can for you. 

You're the keeper of your home. 

“Through wisdom a house is built,
And by understanding it is established;
By knowledge the rooms are filled
With all precious and pleasant riches.“ (
Proverbs 24:3 & 4)

 

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Sasha Savoy

Sasha is the owner and founder of The Mushy Mommy, a natural mother and baby boutique and The Mushy Mommy Village. She is a SAHM who works hard at living as minimal and unprocessed as possible, but never claims perfection. Her mission is to inspire, encourage, enlighten and empower mothers all over to feel good about their choices, to make healthy choices and to enjoy motherhood and all of its beauty and chaos.