How to Get Your Home and Life Ready for Parenthood While Living with a Disability

This is a featured guest post written by Ashley Taylor from disabledparents.org. Thank you to Ashley for sharing this with our readers and those who may benefit from this information. 

Disabled Parents Getting Ready for Parenthood

Parents come in all shapes and sizes. They also come with a variety of skills and abilities, and some live with disabilities. Anyone with enough love in their heart is capable of being a tremendous parent, and you’ll be surprised by just how much love you feel when your child arrives. You just need to prepare your life and home ahead of time to make parenting more manageable.

1. Start Saving

One of the best ways to prepare your life for parenthood is increasing your savings. Becoming a parent will increase your stress level, but it does not need to increase your anxiety about finances with some careful preparation. According to Listen Money Matters, a new child costs an average of $11,000 the first year, not including childcare. By the time your child reaches 18, he will cost you approximately $250,000.

Diapers, baby food, baby gear, and clothing adds up quickly, and you need to make sure that you are prepared by starting to save as soon as possible. Similarly, you should increase your life insurance and start a college savings account for your child. Now is the time to make some life planning decisions and make sure you have saved as much as possible to secure everyone’ future.

2. Make Home Modifications

All parents make some modifications to their homes when a baby is due to arrive. Some remodel to make room for a nursery, some hire an electrician to add lighting in hallways and stairways, and some simply add baby gates. If you are living with a disability, you may have a few more home modifications to make to help with childcare skills.

For example, you should install grab bars in a few areas of your bathroom to assist in bathing your children and prevent falls. As a parent, you need to know that Nationwide Children’s Hospital reports that more than 43,000 children receive emergency treatment for injuries relating to the bathtub and shower each year.

To prevent injury, you should install grab bars inside the bathtub or shower and outside the tub or shower to assist in getting in and out. The goal is to create a handrail surrounding your tub or shower area. It’s also a good idea to install grab bars on the toilet wall to assist in lowering and raising yourself from the toilet seat or to hold on to while you help your child use the toilet.

3. Prevent Falls

It’s also important to prevent falls and eliminate tripping hazards in your home before you start carrying your bundle of joy, especially if you have mobility challenges. Begin by removing worn carpet that is peeling or bunching. If you have throw rugs or bathroom mats, make sure they are backed with non-slip materials. You also should check for loose floorboards and high transitions from one type of flooring to another and repair them.

Keep in mind that falls are among the leading cause of injuries at home, and anyone of any age or ability can fall. As your child gets older, he will be at greater risk of falling when he learns to walk. This means that you need to protect him by keeping electrical cords along the baseboard and removing clutter, especially on stairs and in walking paths. Teach your child to pick up his toys and designate areas for toys to make it easier for him to do so.

You also can prevent falls with some simple home modifications. Install night lights in your hallways and stairs. You don’t necessarily need to hire an electrician to do this; consider using battery-powered LED night lights that mount easily to your walls. You may opt for motion-activated lights to save battery power, too. If your stairs do not have carpet on them, hire a contractor to carpet them or install adhesive grips on their edges to make them less slippery.

You will never be completely prepared to become a parent, but you can take some steps to make the arrival of your new little one more manageable. Start by increasing your savings. Then, modify your home to assist in caring for your child and to prevent falls and accidents.

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Sasha Savoy

Sasha is the owner and founder of The Mushy Mommy, a natural mother and baby boutique and The Mushy Mommy Village. She is a SAHM who works hard at living as minimal and unprocessed as possible, but never claims perfection. Her mission is to inspire, encourage, enlighten and empower mothers all over to feel good about their choices, to make healthy choices and to enjoy motherhood and all of its beauty and chaos. 

My Maternity Go To Fashion

So let's get real here...my maternity wardrobe isn't as glamorous as this appears. Most days it's a maternity tee and some stretchy pants or shorts. Basically if you catch me at home or out running errands -- I probably look a hot mess. 

But...

On occasion I do dress up and when I do, I love to stick to certain elements during pregnancy. My best friends for pregnancy are maxi dresses/skirts and flowy, gaucho style pants (or I just call them hippie pants) and for baby number 3 it was most definitely-- LEGGINGS with TUNICS. Can I get all of the praise hands on that one?

 I love a good fitted tee or or blouse to accent the bump, but I love a good flow to um...not accent my bottom half! But if I did wear leggings, which was a TON this pregnancy, I tried to stick with tunics and longer shirts to hide the rear (I'm a firm believer that's how leggings should be worn anyway). 

Maternity clothes shopping can be fun for some and not so fun for others. For my first born I was ecstatic to hit up the local Target and Destination Maternity to grab some things! I wasn't looking to spend a ton of money and I just wanted cute and practical things. Shopping online seemed crazy because I neeeedded to try it on and then higher priced boutiques just really aren't my thing; so I stuck to the common places. 

For baby number two I hardly purchased much because all of my pregnancies have been through the exact same seasons, so I was good with what I had. Then baby number three came along and I developed a slightly different mindset -- buy all of the things that I can wear now AND later. In other words, if it was a flowy top from say Gap, I could wear it for about six months of my pregnancy (and did) and then still have cute, new tops after the pregnancy. Same goes for leggings! I did this a bit in the beginning and tried to be functional. It worked great until the pounds packed on towards the end and I had to buy a few new maternity things or resort to my maternity wardrobe from the past. 

But let's talk about my maternity pictures for a second. I decided to try something new -- I shopped with Pinkblush maternity and ordered some things (not all pictured here) and LOVED it. I absolutely loved it and it all fit perfectly! Sure I would have loved to have tried the pieces on beforehand, but I didn't have to return anything and it all fit great. 

I was so pleased with my Pinkblush experience that I can't wait to shop there again. And no, this isn't a sponsored post. My first order included the gray cowl neck dress pictured here, a nursing/maternity maxi dress, a nursing/maternity wrap dress (featured soon) and a beautiful robe that I have been loving postpartum. Both the robe and cowl neck dress were on sale so in the end, my purchase was amazing cost wise. 

My other tip for this past pregnancy was to piece together old things and reuse them in new ways. That denim vest pictured below was a denim jacket from my sophomore year in high school that I just cut the sleeves off of! In other words, it's crazy old. But it's cute and I love it as an accent. 

Have fun accenting your bump. Dress it up or dress it down and stay comfy. Either way, embrace the bump and don't sweat the body changes. You'll never have an excuse to eat so much ever again. ;) 

My Maternity Fashion Tips:

  • Leggings with Tunics
  • Maxi Dresses
  • Maxi Skirts
  • Gaucho Style Pants (frequently found at Target)
  • Tight shirts for a bump accent but long enough to cover the bum
  • Reuse old pieces for accents
  • Accent with statement necklaces that don't interfere with the bump too much
  • Tie wrap dresses
  • Purchase dresses with nursing friendly tops to use postpartum in those early weeks (Pinkblush Maternity is great for this)
  • Purchase non maternity tops that are flowy and large enough to accommodate you for a few months and then you can still have postpartum

Sources: white maxi skirt Motherhood // Feather necklace Plunder // Girl's dresses Old Navy // Men's shirt Express // Cowl neck dress Pinkblush // Blue statement necklace Virgo Boutique // Pink shoes Qupid 

What are some of your favorite maternity must haves or fashion tips? Drop a comment below! 

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Sasha Savoy

Sasha is the owner and founder of The Mushy Mommy, a natural mother and baby boutique and The Mushy Mommy Village. She is a SAHM who works hard at living as minimal and unprocessed as possible, but never claims perfection. Her mission is to inspire, encourage, enlighten and empower mothers all over to feel good about their choices, to make healthy choices and to enjoy motherhood and all of its beauty and chaos. 

UpSpring Prenatal Vitamins (great for no nausea)

When it comes to pregnancy and breastfeeding there is one thing we ALL need and that is a good, reliable brand of prenatal vitamins. There are so many out there on the market right now that it's hard to know which one is the best one, the tastiest one or the one to leave you feeling the least amount of nausea (that's what I need). Or better yet, the one with the most natural ingredients to keep baby safe. 

If you're in the market for some prenatal vitamins, I'd love to introduce UpSpring to you! This gummy vitamin is great for those who may suffer from morning sickness or who typically get sick from their vitamins (ME). I am here to tell you that these should NOT make you sick as they never made me feel sick. They are easy to chew and soft! The flavor I was sent was mango-peach which does happen to be two fruits that I am not typically a fan of, but overall the vitamin wasn't too bad taste wise. I love that it wasn't full of sugary crystals like my former prenatal vitamins. 

What I love is that this brand carries numerous mother and baby products - especially in the breastfeeding area! In fact, I have used their milk strips before to detect any alcohol levels after a glass or two of wine. Their products are amazing and all natural - which is always a plus to me. 

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Some yummy facts on UpSpring Vitamins:

UpSpring, a mom-founded and mom-run company, has a mission to empower parents with confidence and to give them the freedom to enjoy motherhood even more. By finding innovative solutions to the everyday health and wellness challenges and frustrations facing mothers of a baby or young child, UpSpring provides “more fun, less worry.” Since 2005, UpSpring has made all-natural products based on true science that solve real problems.

UpSpring Prenatal+ is a complete multivitamin that also includes omega-3 DHA and choline (in the form of Alpha GPC), which are clinically shown to support fetal brain development.  Alpha GPC is a highly bioavailable form of choline and the only form that crosses the blood-brain barrier to nourish your baby’s growing brain.  It also helps to enhance DHA absorption.  This formula also contains the natural form of vitamin B9, folate, instead of synthetic folic acid. Enjoy three delicious mango-peach gummies every day plus one easy-to-swallow softgel. You get 100% of the daily value of 11 essential nutrients, plus brain-building omega-3 and Alpha GPC. Best of all, our gummy is easy on the stomach, so no tummy upsets!

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These vitamins are all natural, NON GMO and gluten free --  you won't find anything artificial in them; this is something that I love and respect about this company. If you are interested in learning more about these vitamins or purchasing some for yourself, make sure to check out this link and surf their site for more awesome mother and baby products! 

Thanks to UpSpring for sending these my way as they came right when my other vitamins ran out. Use a brand you can trust, use UpSpring! 

This review was made possible by iConnect and UpSpring.  I was provided compensation to facilitate this post, but all opinions stated are 100% mine.

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Sasha Savoy

Sasha is the owner and founder of The Mushy Mommy, a natural mother and baby boutique and The Mushy Mommy Village. She is a SAHM who works hard at living as minimal and unprocessed as possible, but never claims perfection. Her mission is to inspire, encourage, enlighten and empower mothers all over to feel good about their choices, to make healthy choices and to enjoy motherhood and all of its beauty and chaos.